I sympathize completely, John. I returned to Linux after a number of years, and 16.04---after all the tinkering and customizing---proved to be so good that it lulled me into a sense of over confidence. I made the unforgivable mistake of not keeping an image backup of the drive, before running the upgrade.
Nothing that was broken got fixed by updates of 18.04. How do you manage to break cron, for heaven's sakes? Instead, more things started breaking. Now, both my WINE apps are broken. The Foobar music player window cannot be moved or resized. (I never got the WASAPI direct access to my USB sound card to work on 18.04.) I have a blockchain app that spontaneously disconnects from the network (used to work perfectly on 16.04) --- my ranking on the network has been wrecked by these frequent disconnects, and manual reboots. I have never known a Linux system as crappy as this. In my past experience, it takes a while tinkering at the CLI and editing .conf files, etc. but once you've got it done, it runs fast and stable. Not any more---it updates endlessly, and degrades over time.
Thunderbird is working for me. Xsane, GIMP and Transmission are reliable. Firefox is rubbish now. Even VLC has problems intermittently. There is a Plex media server running fine, which is a 3rd party app.
I hung in there for a full year, with the endless typing of sudo password, and manual mounting of Samba directories in CLI, etc. and finally returned to Windows 7 on a new hardware. I am humming along now, with 1 or 2 minor irritants, which is normal for Windows. I will continue to use Samba as my LAN file server, and store all my data on Ext4 through it. It also runs a 3rd party cloud backup app. I am satisfied with Linux as a file server.
The desktop is going nowhere. I'll see how 20.04 turns out. It could be that 18.04 was an anomaly, and everything will return to 16.04 standard again. It's possible, but somehow I doubt it. The development model's weakness has been exposed thoroughly---I don't need it to be "free".