Headset keeps disconnecting shortly after establishing connection pulseaudio

I tried everything I can find online

when I ran this command
sudo pactl load-module module-bluetooth-discover
if get the following response Failure: Module initialization failed

I tried to edit the etc/pulse/default.pa & usr/bin/start-pulseaudio-x11 because I read that I can get the bluetooth discover module to run before x11

It used to work before updating to the latest MATE. the type of headset I’m trying to connect is jaybird x2. other devices connect normally via bluetooth to my mate machine.

at the same time my jaybird connects to my phone just fine and works flawlessly

Please help me out figure this annoying issue