The way I get round these kinds of problems is by installing several themes between all of which I know all of the elements I want will be included one way or another. Then, I set it up with a specific theme where I know most of the elements will be right, but where there may be one or two things that are not right. Then, I go into the "customise" tab and pick out elements of other themes to mix and match with the main theme I am using.
So, for example, the theme combination I am using right now is:
controls: numix
window border: ambient red
icons: mate-faenza-dark
pointer: DMZ-white
So, the two themes I have installed there, are Numix and Ambient Red
Numix is in the repos
I got Ambient Red from the "Mate Look" website