Your posting has given me the opportunity to address the topic raised, which is one I have long wanted to address, with everyone in mind. I hope many of you will take time to consider these thoughts.
It is unfortunate, but the reality of Free Open Source Software (FOSS) is that
- it is free ... because of the generosity of others,
- it is open ... so that everyone can see, for themselves, whether it is safe or abusive,
- it is source ... so that those with the creative genius can share their works for posterity, and
- because of that sharing, anyone, including yourselves, can "roll-your-own" as they say.
This last one IS FOSS's greatest advantage in its "tortoise-like" race with the proprietary software in that, once out there, it can never go away, except by being deliberately ignored (likely because a better tool has emerged from another creative genius)!
That is unlike the $W that will disappear because people/corporations want to blame someone when (not if) things go wrong.
The biggest benefit (or challenge depending on your point of view) is that it is subject to the whims of the "owner's/creator's" sense/perception of what is good, best, or needs to evolve.
For those of us who cannot follow, let alone absorb, the details of every evolutionary step in our technological baseline, we must resign ourselves to the fact that others control our technological destiny.
Given that, as End-Users of such "freebies", we must find ways to form communities of like mind (UbuntuMATE is one such community) where as a group we can foster and encourage, by all means that the creators look favourably upon, to nurture and encourage their continued devotion to a shared view of how "things" should be!
That's enough for the "why" and "how".
What you need to "flesh out", document and publish/communicate/share is the what, namely
a very clear vision
of every element
of exactly you vision of desirable reality that is,
being specific on the
- I want keep this as is,
- I want this change, and
- I don't want that change,
and being very clear about your reasoning for, or against, any of those things. Without that, there is nothing for individuals to "gravitate" towards.
With that out there, for everyone to see, and more importantly to discuss and come to a consensus of shared perception of desirability, that vision will come to be ... over time ... because you are still relying on the generosity of creators being willing to "consume/spend/dedicate" their limited budget of focus/energies on your community's shared roadmap towards your long-term vision.
It is very hard to find shared concensus.
Within jus the Linux community, each of the over 100+ Linux distro represents a divergence from concensus !!!
While disheartening, that is just another reflection of human nature, such that we still have 300+ countries, rather than a single humanity !!!
Getting back to Linux and desirability of its various aspects, if you can try to keep the "target" small enough so that it will be crystal clear to all concerned and easy enough to find like-minded individuals to form a community of interest for that target, one which includes "worker bees" able to create the reality so that the remaining "drones" (not meant to be negative) can leverage that into a productive framework that becomes a sustainable society/economy, then you will have a winner.
I do hope you can achieve your goal, for all our sakes!
It is an old, and "corny" expression, but in the FOSS world we must try to rally under as few, or preferrably a single, "flag" for our vision, to put aside many differences which are primarily "preferences", rather than "mechanics". I propose the use of the cry,
"All for one and one for all!"
shared with the world by Alexandre Dumas in his novel "The Three Musketeers".
I have the unwaivering faith that the FOSS community at large will, someday, see the light, even if conflicts such as systemd vs non-systemd, or GNOME vs KDE vs MATE, persist. These, in my view, are primarily differences in perception regarding the "primacy" of what is the "default" configuration, and not a matter of "this plug-in" vs "that plug-in" regarding choice, again of configuration, regarding method/workflow to achieve a functional implementation.
Food for thought ... for the community at large.